Bits of Zubaty
A compilation of writings from
"What Men Know That Women Don't"
by Rich Zubaty.
(Released here with the permission of the author, Rich Zubaty.)
Rich Zubaty is a man who writes largely with his passions, and those passions often arise out of hurt and pain; but provided that energy stirs up something which surfaces as truths, who can honestly find fault? The following compilation of writings speaks many truths.A small criticism I have of Zubaty's ideas on women is that I don't believe he has fully confronted the lack of consciousness in women, which leads him to see women as willful beings, and then to blame women for their actions. More realistically, most of the blame must lay at the feet of men, who should know better.
It is difficult for a man to entertain the idea that woman is an unthinking being when he has sacrificed his soul to win her approval.
Kevin Solway, 2004
I have been forced to conclude that virtually everything in this world is the outright opposite of what we were taught it is.
Psychic events, I discovered, are mind events, ego events, arts like psychology and astrology and palmistry, which relate to what shape my ego is in today – what are the stars predicting for me today? – ego stuff.
Spiritual events, on the other hand, are beyond the ego, beyond the sights and sounds and visualizations and verbalizations we use to construct our world. Psychic teachings come from parts of California and New York and India. Spiritual teachings come from sitting quietly in a chair or watching babies sleep. Psychic events are sensual; spiritual events are outside the senses. And I might as well spit it out right now: psychic events are essentially feminine and spiritual events are overwhelmingly masculine. Women who break their minds out of the psychic swamp are few and far between.
. . . This fact constitutes an awesome difference between the sexes with profound implications for human society. When a woman is talking about "spirituality", she is almost always referring to psychic phenomena.
And right at the top of my list of misperceived things, in fact the essence of the problem, are the supposed attributes of men and women. The reason that men and women don't get along, the reason the divorce rate in America is 60% and half the kids are growing up without dads, is that somehow, over thousands of years, men and women have swapped mental roles and each are acting out of character weaknesses which have been wrongly perceived as the inherited strengths of that sexual model.
To this day the average Australian aborigine – the one who hasn't yet been seduced out of the outback by the temple prostitutes of materialism – still works only twelve hours a week. That's all that's required for him to provide for his family. The rest of his time is spent making art and dance and music, the very things that keep him harmonizing with his natural world.
To the Native American of the Pacific Northwest the man accorded the greatest prestige was the one who, at the annual Potlatch ceremony, gave the most away! He gave away the most salmon, the most honey, the most furs, and he gave away the most prayers; for everyone understood a real man could always get more of what people needed and therefore he had no need to hoard any of it! This is masculine thinking.
This is what MAN is all about: the faith that his rapport with nature and with his God will continue to provide what is best for him. This is not rugged individualism. This is rugged spiritualism.
It's my opinion that the tragedy of modern times – the past 8,000 years – is that the masculine pole has been deserted. It's time to relocate the center of gravity of the human personality far, far. back onto the male end of the spectrum. Buddha, Jesus, some Sufi mystics – all of them tried to bring the male spirit back to life, but their messages were reinterpreted in the context of agrarian, mercantile nations. The message was perverted. Now fundamentalists talk about the Christian Work Ethic. THERE IS NO CHRISTIAN WORK ETHIC.
We don't have the faintest idea what it means to be men anymore. Our male models are reconstituted women. They are the men women like, not the men God likes.
Starting 140 years ago, men were taken completely out of nature and sent in to the office and the factory where they manufacture and sell more items to make women's lives easier. Thus, men have been maneuvered into doing work that historically, for 2.2 million years, had been women's work: farming and making pots. Children were removed from the daily companionship of their dads where they exchanged energy sowing, reaping, fishing, repairing wagon wheels, investigating bird's nests and hollow logs; and they were shunted off to school where they were raised, by and large, by women.
We don't need more education. We need more spirituality – more of a sense of how to live happily with less.
Men don't need to do what women want; men need to do what the Deer God wants.
It hasn't taken women very long to figure out that they can do men's work because, after all, now men's work is mostly all women's work.
Pursuit of happiness is primarily a female goal. Pursuit of the mysteries of life is primarily a male goal.
You want to know what has happened to us men? Look at Native Americans. The decay and dissolution we see in them is the exact same thing that has happened to all of us. What we are seeing on the reservation is a speeded up version of what Western society has done to all men – killed off the visionaries and turned the rest into a bunch of alcoholic businessmen. What they have gone through in the last 200 years is what we have gone through over the last 2,000.
Women are people-oriented and men are object-oriented. That's why we see so many women buying crap in the malls and so many boys playing team sports. Have you ever been in a bachelor apartment? There's a stereo, one sheet, and a plastic spoon/fork from Kentucky Fried Chicken. Wait 'til the poor sucker gets married.
My ex is Jewish. My kids are Jewish. Morning minyan is the only place men can go to get away from the women and that's only because the women are still in bed. Judaism is a Matriarchy disguised as a Patriarchy. Jewish women obey no one – not their husbands, not their God. They are in many ways the mold for the type of women American society is producing.
Judaism is a system for enforcing female values and the hell with goat herds.
Catholics pray more to Mary than to Jesus. And can you guess who Mary is? Mary is a JEWISH MOTHER.
We now live in a country where 60% of marriages end in divorce and half the kids are being brought up without dads. This is not men's fault. This is women's fault. 85% of divorce actions are filed by women. This does not mean that 85% of men are assholes. It means that 85% of women are profoundly unhappy with life.
Is it not true that religious laws have a lot to say about wives being obedient to their husbands? Why would you think every single religion on the earth, in every existent culture, including the 120,000-year-old aboriginal culture, has strictures regarding this? Is it possible that the cultures that never took steps to curb the raw ambition of their women are not around any longer? Don't you imagine that some extinct culture in the last 120,000 years experimented with the total emancipation of women?
Ultimately, the main thing that gives a man meaning and purpose in his sorry life, the thing that gets him up in the morning and off to work at some stink-ass job, is the time he spends being enriched by his kids. Kids do that for men. They make us happy to be alive. Where does this society get off ripping that away from us and still expecting us to perform?
Men know a lot of things women can never know. I have no doubt it is the same for women. Marriage was intended to achieve a golden mean between the practicality of women and the soaring inspiration of men.
Men have always been the dreamers, the poets, the artists, the imaginers. Men don't talk as much as women, not because they are insipid, but because they perceive reality differently. Men do not see the same things. We look for essence more than form.
Men cast their nets into the sea of life, over and over again, mostly coming up empty. But eventually they bring in buckets full of many-colored fish, and women gather on the shore to sort them and haggle over the price. That's how the world works, from the Gulf of Mexico to the Gulf of Siam – not how you see it on TV where the men are stumbling, bumbling, inarticulate, incompetent fools who can't even answer the phone without dropping it on their foot.
Women manipulate the bananas out of their kids, especially their sons, creating vicarious existences to supercharge their own dull egos – and they have the nerve to call that nurturing.
School is the place you go to learn all the things that are exactly the opposite of what you need to know to succeed in life. Life requires cooperation and giving of your time to other people and to yourself. School teaches you to compete for grades.
John Gatto, 1991 New York School Teacher of the Year, said – shortly after he quit teaching – that he was tired of teaching kids how to fit into a society that he didn't care to live in anymore.
[School] That's where you went to learn to read so you could study the holy book which told you everything you needed to know about how to live a successful life in your given culture. That was school. Now you learn computers. Now you go to a place where you find out William Shakespeare was a great man, but you don't even hear the names of Jesus or Buddha or Moses or Mohammed or Krishna or Ahura Mazda or Black Elk. What kind of education could anyone possibly get in a place that ignores the major players in the growth and development of human civilization, but where students are trained to hang on the sensuous and undeniably compelling words of a possibly pseudonymous 16th Century actor?
Before Astarte and her agricultural plotters a man never had to fear hunger because he could always say a prayer, pick up his bow, and go shoot a rabbit. Now they call that trespassing!
The neglect, indeed the rejection, of wisdom has gone so far that most of our intellectuals have not even the faintest idea what the term could mean. – E. F. Schumacher (an economist).
Do you ever listen to women talk? Do you get the idea that the foundation of their belief system is that the world is essentially a good place? Or do you get the feeling from them that life is a constant battle of things to be manipulated and arranged?
Our brain is a gonad, a sex gland.
The problem is that our habitat is being destroyed. Our territory has been fenced and plowed under, our ivory sold for earrings, our children poached to serve institutions of higher something or other. We are being squeezed out by feminist values. There is scarcely a real man left alive.
We've created parks for wild elephants; maybe we'll have to establish some game reserves for men – human nature sanctuaries, monasteries of maleness, museums of the soul.
It has been shown that the right brain is bigger in men than in women. That is, men are naturally endowed with a greater physical brain capacity for embracing the spiritual and intuitive dimensions of life. Clearly this is the exact opposite of what we have been led to believe.
Sandra Witelson suggests that greater separation of brain spheres in males makes it easier for them to do two things at once – easier to do what the guru do – live in the paradox. Women are handicapped in the sense that if they can't put a word on it they don't see it! All the psychic garbage aside, unless an image or a feeling or a sound can be named, it can hardly be noticed at all by a woman. . . . No wonder there are so few women artists and spiritual leaders, and so many psychics and realtors and lawyers.
Art and spirituality, by definition, defy verbal description; they evoke sensations that are outside our normal repertoire of phonic symbols. Shortly I will show that females have better fine-hand motor skill aptitudes than men and that's why you see so many of them in arts and crafts classes making baskets and ceramic butterflies, but creative giants like Marc Chagall and Pablo Picasso could scarcely be accused of exercising fine motor skills. What they can be credited with is poking a maniac's peephole into the mind of God.
Women are given to logicizing: constructing rational-sounding sentences which are essentially word association games. Mention the word "hose" in a sentence about boats and you're just as likely to end up talking about stockings. Men get frustrated to hell conversing with women because women think nothing of skipping off the topic at hand to track down some word association. It's not a question of their being irrational, though that's what they're most often accused of. The problem is one of being too literal. When the conversation wanders into an area which is unfamiliar to them, rather than just listening, they will leap out at some random word and jerk the whole thread of thinking back into some groove that is familiar to them.
Women have more emotions, men have deeper feelings.
Maharishi has said that life is 100% Unity and 100% Diversity – probably the most direct statement of truth I have ever run across. He bids us to live in this fundamental paradox. This sort of koan opens a doorway in most men's minds, a vista on greater things. Most women go into spasms of dissociation when this thought ricochets around inside their skulls trying to find a solid place to land.
For a woman to break out of her psychic stew of verbal props must be as frightening as leaping off a bridge into a misty bottomless canyon. It is not part of her experience; she has nothing to hang on to. Women are biologically disposed to expressing life with words. It is not a fault per se, but neither should men feel inferior because we don't reduce the vastness of our right brains into words that women understand. That's expecting an elephant to fly. We're not made for that. We have other strengths.
If I tell my kids, "I happened upon a moment of Buddha consciousness standing on a street corner", my son will say, "What's Buddha consciousness?" and my daughter will say "What street corner?" I love my daughter more than all the raindrops that fall on the Pacific Ocean in 1000 years, but notice from her answer that one could easily be mistaken into assuming that she knows exactly what Buddha consciousness is and she just needs to pinpoint where to find it, when, in fact, she knows nothing about it at all and therefore the words don't even stick in her head. This is language? This is communication" I'm not convinced most women have any idea at all what communication is.
Sharing with a woman most often means responding to her questions. Sharing with a man means being quiet and just being with him, absorbing the silent wisdom of the universe that pervades every moment.
. . . We have shattered another toxic myth: women are not more attuned to relationships than men. In fact, men are more perceptive of relationships in all things. . . . Men, with more compartmentalized brains, have a whole different vista on the relationships between things and between people. Men don't worry too much about what they are feeling because they know that, just like the tides, those feelings will pass. Feelings are not any sort of constant, or anything substantial to run your life on. We don't like talking about emotions any more than we like talking about clothes. You have them. So what? They're not the basis of a life well lived.
Turner's Syndrome Kids – kids born with only one X chromosome – are so entirely female they are born without ovaries so they have no opportunity whatever of secreting "male" androgens (like testosterone, which is found in both men and women, and which is the main sexual activator in our bodies). These kids are disproportionately protective of objects like toys and dolls and they adore jewelry and rings. Here is the unopposed female instinct, Mater, at work. Kids who don't have a trace of male hormones in them instinctively hoard objects. They shun sports, they love to go shopping. Why would this simple observation come as a surprise unless we had all been brainwashed into believing that boys love objects and girls love people.
Prehistoric woman, say Moir and Jessel, with a shorter life span and more pregnancies than modern women, could expect 10 menstruations in her life. Modern women can expect 400! We have to put up with 40 times more shit from our women than biology ever intended, and they expect us to believe that we are the problem. Contrary to toxic rumor, pregnant women are the happiest, most centered, women in the world. Women were intended to spend the great part of their young lives pregnant, not working in offices. It's a biological fact.
Men apply for ninety-nine percent of all patents. Genius may have a lot to do with the greater male facility for single-mindedness – separation of the brain spheres – say Moir and Jessel. We can stay in our right brain, our intuitive brain, for lengthy periods of time, as long as no one jerks us out of it by asking us where we put Bobby's muddy shoes. Talking is a form of mental abuse – violence – perpetrated against men, by women, on a constant, unremitting, incognizant basis day in and day out.
The duration of modern childhood has become an oppression of men. The son who used to be available to help dad cut wood and catch food is still in school for fifteen more years! It is a genuine outrage that we have arrived at the societal consensus that the purpose of a man's life is to pay other people to raise his kids.
Ruben Gur has found that women pick up emotional signals with much less effort than men. He determined this by measuring blood flow to the brain while testing his subjects to interpret certain emotional cues. This is the sole example of what we call "women's intuition". that I have run across in my two years of research. It exists, but it exists within the limited parameters of "reading emotions."
Old age becomes a war of the sexes to see whose brain content is going to dominate the home front. Sadly, if grandpa is not permitted to build a hogan of his own out behind the chicken coop he will be trampled by an invading army of words. He waves the white flag and sets up camp by that lake inside his mind that he remembers from when he was a boy. It is one of the forgotten jobs of this society to protect old men from the cheekiness of old women.
Neuro-scientists have recently discovered that the places in the human brain that produce the most endorphins and that contain the largest concentration of endorphin receptors are those involved most intimately with learning,
If you're redesigning a modern city from the ground up, get a female architect. If you're designing a city under the sea, get a man. What are we saying? That women are not creative? Then why are art classes comprised of 80% females? Because women, biologically endowed with superior fine motor skills, have an easier time controlling brushes. For drawing horses or flowers these are perfect attributes. But if you are trying to capture the soul of a Bolivian shaman, better take along a man.
When I was a kid all the faces on TV were men. Now they're all women and manholes – even sportscasters. We are being hourly bombarded with gossip and snippets of information about how to do things that nobody is actually going to do. We've been bestowed the Fix-It-Philosophy, that if the President just does this or doesn't do that everything is going to be wonderful or awful. The media is guilty of government by gossip, and who are they serving? The people who do the shopping. The women.
In Indian philosophy prakriti is matter, the physical, the feminine; purusha is spirit, consciousness, masculine. If you don't like to think about God think about this: the purveyors of spirit and consciousness and form and yang energy have always, in every culture, been men. In cultures separated by thousands of years and thousands of miles the vessels of the spirit were always men.
School is where boys go to be shamed by women. School is where boys go to learn how to be men from women in the absence of God or religion or clear value systems. When I talk about feminization and secularization and materialization of society I am talking about the same thing.
And what of the male teachers? Undeniably there are many fine men and there need to be more in a country where 85% of all teachers are white women, but, a man who is less than a man can be more damaging to boys than a domineering mother. And the chance of hiring feminized men in schools is fairly high because those eligible and willing are those who made it through a feminized school system in good standing without conflict or failure.
School is the place where boys go to be shamed by girls. It's never happened before in history.
We have been invaded by the meme which asserts that the more organized society is the better it is. The better for whom?: Women and manholes.
College is the haven of middle class culture and feminized behavior, says Patricia Cayo Sexton in The Feminized Male. Boys who survive college are the ones who have been successfully feminized.
What this country needs to light a fire up its wazoo is a one-week strike by anyone who considers himself a "real" man. That would be more devastating than Hurricane Andrew and the San Francisco Earthquake all rolled up into one. Just one week of real work not getting done. Out with the manholes, up with the men.
We spend our marriages trying to wrest the same affirmation from our wives that we got from our moms, way back when, before we could even "think". Our wives accuse us of trying to get them to mother us and it's true, we are, that's how we were trained.
Esther Vilar in The Manipulated Man says, "If praise is applied in the correct dosage a woman will never need to scold. Any man who is accustomed to a regular and conditional dosage of praise will interpret its absence as displeasure."
Most jilted male lovers and husbands have an explosive mental meltdown at their beloved's infidelities, which is vastly out of proportion to what they are being deprived of. It feels to them as if they are being torn away from their mother's bodies, and indeed, that's just what is going on down deep in their psyches.
Shame, that deep feeling of worthlessness and helplessness, is precisely the result of withheld praise. Regarding my own mother I've always referred to it as "withdrawal of love". Even now, 43 years after the fact, she can set off an awful, depressing, manic, physical grinding in my stomach simply by withdrawing her love. Clearly she trained me to respond that way eons ago, before I had any sense of how anything works. In its way, it is sheer brutality. This is the meaning of Jesus' admonition that we must learn to hate our mother and father if we expect to find God – find inner peace.
God says surrender your ego. Mom says hang onto your ego so I can continue to use it to shame you into doing what I want. Who do you want to believe? God or mom?
Do you wonder why so many more men than women drink and abuse drugs? Here is the substance of addiction. We were strung out on praise early in life and without regular doses of praise we hurt so bad and feel so useless we have to try to kill the pain somehow. Ah, that first glass of beer, that first joint, how it took the pain away!
Responsible older men used to be available to initiate younger men away from this bondage to women. Without the mental breakdown that accompanies initiation men remain enslaved to female praise. It's a fact, and an outrage. We are letting them rent free space in our heads.
Vilar says, "Girls are given dolls and boys are given train sets. While boys are learning to keep the wheels on the track girls are scolding and praising their dolls just like mommy does to them. Thus, the boy will become adept at manipulating the physical world and the girl will become adept at manipulating him into manipulating it for her."
Our lives are replete with technical marvels: automatic dishwashers and microwave ovens and hot running water and electric garage door openers. . . . Is it true that in the absence of beating clothes on rocks and carrying water jugs on our heads we have meditated more on the essence of creation? No. We just chase around faster and faster trying to keep up the payments on all our labor saving gadgets.
But back to Esther Vilar: "Someday it will dawn on man that woman does not read the wonderful books with which he has filled his libraries, and though she may well admire his marvelous works of art in museums she herself will rarely create, only copy."
We have lost the sense of the sacred in our lives. Women were entrusted with the education of children and what do we have? The objectification of learning. A bunch of stupid rules. If we cannot resurrect the wherewithal to relate ourselves through our art to the world we live in we are doomed to extinction.
Women love money because they love shopping – power over objects – and they love men who give them the money to have this power.
Says Vilar: "Once a particular field of work has brought a man success and financial security, it is uncommon for him to test his abilities in another sphere – his supply of praise might be dangerously reduced. Like Miro and his dots-and-lines technique, Johann Strauss and his waltzes, and Tennessee Williams with his plays about psychotic women, he will stick firmly to his successful technique. The risk of him attempting to be the measure of his own success is too great for him to take."
When people talk about the "woman who stands behind the man" what they mean is that even if she did not lift one finger to help him, at least she held in check her vast repertoire of tools with which she could have sabotaged his delicate, uncertain, creative leap. It's not easy for a woman, with limited right brain and no creative disposition, to resist critiquing and manipulating her spouse into more logically productive activity. There are no more than a handful of women alive who can see their way to supporting men's follies when the paycheck stops coming in.
A man is generally delighted to find that his wife is taking up painting or weaving or writing because this means that she has less time for shopping or manipulating him, or arranging romantic trysts. Who cares if the dirty dishes pile up? If she's happy she's not going to torment him.
Woman is not a Goddess. She is a breathing bag of protoplasm – spiffed up with pink panties and blue eyeliner. She is earth, not sky. Down, not up. Her children are as much a part of her body as her arms and legs, and when she claims to have sacrificed everything for her family it is akin to saying she did everything she possibly could for her thighs and hips.
Says Vilar: "Women really are callous creatures – mainly because it is not to their advantage to feel deeply. Feelings might seduce them into choosing a man who is no use to them, i.e., a man who they could not manipulate at will. Listen to the conversation of young lovers in the park. It is ALWAYS about the female trying to convince the male to do, or not do, something. The first thing a woman wants to know is whether she can manipulate the man. That is the beginning of the relationship, the beginning of 'I love you.'
But she knows, at the same time, that it is absolutely necessary for 'woman' to enact the role of a sensitive being, or man would become aware of her essentially cold, calculating nature."
Through double-signals, deception, and feistiness women create discord that they expect men to repair, "to show me you love me." This is not helpless emotionalism; this is analytical manipulation run wild. Baffle them with cowshit. And men, the deep lovers, put up with it.
Says Vilar: "What an advantage a man would have if he only realized the cold, clear thoughts running through a woman's head while her eyes are brimming with tears."
Let us recognize and establish and conclude that men feel things more deeply than women! The only remarkable thing about any of this is that we would expect it to be any different. A Female Meme has been telling us for centuries that women are more emotional. than men, but who are the passionate artists? Who are the passionate musicians? Who are the passionate inventors? Men, men, and more men!
Women are emotional faucets. A woman can insult the intestines out of her husband, brush on some eyeliner, go to a dinner party, and have a wonderful time, meanwhile leaving the poor man writhing in pain all night. And why does he keep coming back for the abuse? Because he needs the praise that mom taught him to need. And he needs sex.
In America and Europe, men's libidos are constantly being aggravated and stimulated. Soda ads, short skirts, magazine covers, beer commercials, ruthlessly stimulate his sex. His relentless exposure to things feminine keeps him in a constant state of sexual arousal – a testosterone nightmare of cruel pervasiveness which is not known in "primitive" societies.
When a man says "I love you" he's thinking about what he can give her. When a woman says "I love you" she's thinking about what she will get. It's a perfect match.
She praises him, she affirms him, she takes his money, and he's addicted to it. This is the manhole. The man more committed to female values than indeed, even women are.
Says Vilar: "Since men are strong, intelligent, and imaginative, while women are weak, unimaginative, and stupid, why isn't it men who exploit women? Could it be that strength, intelligence and imagination are not prerequisites for power but merely qualifications for slavery? Could it be that the world is not being ruled by experts, but by beings who are not fit for anything else – by women?"
Why do you suspect mothers-in-law and wives don.t get along? They're both competing for the same praise/manipulation territory in their son's/husband's brain.
Women work less and get more than they ever have in the entire history of life on earth – and they're not happy about it.
Women have taken great care to ensure that their lobby, the clergy, are always men. First, because the female image might be damaged if they represented their own interests – men might think them calculating – and second, because they know men rate feminine intelligence rather low, which is why they can only influence a man's emotions. Advice from another man, and one respected from childhood, is much more likely to be listened to and taken. Although this advice always benefits women it does not reflect hostility on the part of this holy lobby toward "normal" men, but is a direct consequence of that lobby's financial dependence on women.
Men, the carriers of the Spirit throughout the ages, have been put to work with tractors and shovels to create the wealth which is garnered by women and priests. It's like a science fiction nightmare. But it's real.
Men are slaves to women and women serve themselves.
Vilar says: "Questions about the meaning of life do not interest woman. Since she does not think abstractly the problems of existential anxiety do not touch her. All she needs is an excuse for making one particular man work for her long after he ceases to want to go to bed with her. This excuse is provided by bearing his children.
When a man engenders children he gives a woman hostages in hopes that she will exploit him forever."
Vilar says: If, occasionally, women do see more clearly than men it is only because their feelings, unlike those of men, are never involved.
Says Vilar, "The only important act in any woman's life is the selection of the right partner."
Says Vilar, "American women, more than other women, fail to consider men as fellow human beings. And American men prefer to see themselves in this role: a man's salary is the yardstick of his worth. America is the only place where a badly paid professor is a bad professor, and an unsuccessful writer is a bad writer. For the Latin American male, masculinity is still associated with sexual potency. For the American male, however, the association is directly with money.
The American man knows that happiness comes only through women, and women are expensive. He is ready to pay that price. As a young adult he pays in advance, as a grownup he pays in installments, and as a corpse he is cashed in for a fortune.
The American man, more than any other man, mistakes his wife's lack of intellectual ambition for modesty, her stupidity for exceptional femininity, her giving up responsibilities for love. More than any other man he is able to close his eyes to the evidence of his own exploitation."
How come a "liberated" woman won't willingly go to work to support her husband and children at home?
Says Vilar, "To a woman love means power, to a man enslavement. 'For the sake of love' woman will do things that are only of advantage to herself, while man does only those things that will harm him.
. . . Only woman can break the vicious cycle of man's manipulation and exploitation, but she will not do it. There is absolutely no compelling reason why she should. It is useless to appeal to her feelings because she is callous and knows no pity. And so the world will go on, sinking deeper and deeper into this morass of kitsch, barbarism, and inanity called Femininity."
Says Phyllis Schlafly, "Men are philosophers and women are practical. Men may philosophize about how life began and where we are heading; women are concerned about feeding the kids today. . . Women do not take naturally to a search for the intangible or abstract."
Men are at home with mysteries and paradoxes, tracking strange creatures over uneven mental terrain, following a flash in the bushes or a quirky sound in a hollow. Women cannot stand a mystery that cannot be solved. It shrivels their circuits.
We have taken the worst of the nomadic and the agricultural ways of life and are building a world out of them. Unlike nomadic kids our kids are in school for twenty years starting as soon as they get out of diapers. They are not producing anything, they are an enormous drain on their parents, and they're not even having fun or learning basic values. Half of them are being raised without dads and have no notion whatever of the male modes of behavior.
Reproduction does not belong to women alone. Child rearing does not belong to women and their schools alone. Men need to be included in the raising of their children. . . . We are not just beasts of burden assigned to work shit jobs and mail-in our child support checks.
WHAT IS A MAN?
- A buffalo hunter on a plain where the buffalo are gone.
- A supporter of minority rights which has left him in the minority
- A poet who is chastised for wearing the wrong colored socks.
- A creature who could make his way in the world with a blanket and a pocket knife, who has been preyed upon to buy his family a 3-bedroom house and a garage full of toys that they take for granted, and he paid for with his life.
George Gilder says, "It should be clear to any sentient observer that the worst parts of the ghetto present a rather typical pattern of female dominance, with women in charge of the families and male gangs away on the hunt. Workable in primitive societies with garden and game this system brings unremitting tragedy in the tenements and on the streets of our modern cities. . . . In any disintegrating society the family is reduced to the lowest terms of mother and child."
It seems to me the whole country has moved the way of ghettoization. Women feel they are entitled to something from the government and the job market. Men are increasingly being made obsolete; their only purpose is to perform the menial labor jobs women don't want to do.
Says Gilder, "We pride ourselves on living in a nation of laws but few people recognize the limitations of the law. No law can prevail against the dissolution of the social connections and personal motivations that sustain a civilized polity. Carl Jung pointed out that society can resist epidemics of physical disease, but it is defenseless against diseases of the mind."
We are moving to a system where children will be raised entirely by the state. Gilder calls this the emerging Matriarchy Without Mothers.
There is more spirituality in most Blues songs than there is in the entire church oratory. "Soul" is first and foremost male soul.
Across cultures, the worry that boys will not grow up to be men is far more widespread than the worry that girls will not grow up to be women.
Philip E. Slater in The Pursuit of Loneliness says, "We seek entertainment, not God. The same man who chuckles and sentimentalizes over a happy-go-lucky film hero would view his real-life counterpart as a frivolous and irresponsible bum."
In America we are all free to pursue exactly the same goals – house, car, career, family, retirement. How boring to live in such a one-dimensional society devoid of wandering gurus – who are arrested for loitering – and Gypsy wagoneers – who can't get permits for their vehicles.
On page 25 of the May 4, 1992 Newsweek we can see a photo of women carrying placards which state, "Our Bodies Our Business". And on page 41 of the same issue we can see a lineup of delinquent dads arrested for non-payment of child support.
In a public lecture in Seattle, Washington Margaret Mead suggested that American men had been so effectively domesticated by their women that they had too little time and too little energy to engage in the national and communal tasks which needed doing – including the initiation of young men.
All the young men in this country are alienated. Alienated from society. Alienated from themselves. And how has the machine of civilization responded? By creating the "information revolution" – yet another computerized, feminized attempt to solve the problem by shoveling on more information. . . . Dad's either at work or kicked out of the house.
Psychotherapists have been lying to us for 100 years. They tell us we are born without an ego and need to spend our lives building it up. For them empowerment is a matter of bolstering the ego, building self-esteem. This is straight-on feminist, materialist philosophy and indeed this is the diametric opposite of the truth.
Modern media can most politely be described as a "celebrity suck-off". Let's get some famous person up here to tell an anecdote about what happened on a film set in Europe or something their daughter did. This is criminal misuse of our airwaves and our print space. Playboy magazine is notable for having the worst writing by the best authors around. If some literary light has something laying around under his bed he sends it to Playboy. Why not go out there and find some of the best writing by the least known authors? Don't tell me you don't have the time. You don't have the brains. You don't care.
Says Robert Bly, "Women want a tractable man, if they want one at all; the church wants a tamed man, the university wants a domesticated man, the corporation wants subservient men."
This is entirely a woman's world we live in. That's why they want the political accolades. That's why they want the recognition. They already run the whole show and now they just want us to formally acknowledge the fact.
You can almost take it as a rule of thumb that whatever a woman says she is feeling, she is not feeling. This is not caring and sharing. We never know what they feel because they just lie about it. They lie to themselves, and in doing so, they lie to us.
Women turn emotions on and off like tap water. A woman can scream at her husband an hour after dinner and send him off to get drunk, watching TV in his room – then be ready to "give him some sex" a half hour later. These digital emotions belie how shallow the feelings are to begin with, and constitute a daily variety of emotional abuse.
This is America. It is so entirely feminine it baffles people all over the rest of the world and it is killing us off at an alarming rate. We fought and died to create this? Amazing.
No matter which of society's goals a man has pursued it is never satisfying because, essentially, it is a materialistic, feminist-approved goal; for if it wasn't, he would never have gotten anywhere performing it.
Men were created to counter, to offset, to compensate for female memes; and we can only do that by drawing a line in the sand and asserting our position. That is done by holding your palm out in front of you and saying, "You can do what you want with your own life, but you will not invade my mind, or my children's minds, past this point."
All this propaganda we get about how happy and free we are here [in the U.S] is a lot of whistling up your wazoo. Other people in other countries are not chained like dogs to 25-year mortgages.
We have organized ourselves right out of being able to provide basic shelter. Everyone has to be upper middle class, or there's no room for them. You are totally free to pay rent to somebody and, in two years, pay them what it would cost to build your own place. So what if your hand-built, third-world house would be small? It would be yours and it would be paid for! We don't even remember what freedom means anymore. It means: freedom from paying a goddamned mortgage.
What has feminized American society made us into? Idiots. We make money during the week to meet our mortgage payments and then spend the weekend mowing the lawn and fixing the gutters. Idiots.
Says Rohr, the feminized corporate male cannot do what he believes is right because he's not even sure what he believes in. What's worse, if he ever figured out what he believed in he'd quit his job today. Or if he actually acted on what he believed in he'd get fired.
Men speak three and a half times fewer words than women and consequently a greater portion of their communication is done through gesture and nuance and body language that is beyond the scope of female apprehension.
It's clear to me that anger is what wrote this book. Without that passion, that depth of feeling, I wouldn't have dropped everything I was doing for two years to research these gender topics. So it was a good thing. That anger. And in a big way my life and my writing have been about living with and defusing anger and resentments. Without some spiritual tools to dampen the dynamite, my brains would have blown out my ears long ago.
It is important to remember that each year over 97% of all husbands do not resort to violence in their relationships. Considering the sheer amount of verbal abuse we withstand that statistic amazes me.
When too much emphasis is put on the purchase and possession of objects too many people suffer. Shopping is evil. But you won't hear women or corporations say that.
There are courses taught by human relations consultants called "Marrying Up" and "Marrying Money". Men are welcome to attend but the instructor warns the lessons will not be applicable to them.
I do not know a single man who goes into a relationship with the idea of changing the woman; I do not know a single woman who goes into a relationship without the idea of changing the man. She still wants to be saved. She will train him to save her.
Men need mothers' permission to turn boys into men, and that permission is not forthcoming in our society. In our feminized legal climate the male initiators would be thrown in jail if they attempted to perform this ritual service without the permission of the mothers.
All the things that I knew in my youth to be superficial and a waste of time became the norm and benchmark of our family aspirations during 15 years of marriage.
My future-former wife once flew into a rage that I wasn't being paid enough. She cut me off sexually and made my life miserable until I took her advice and fired my salesman. Within two weeks my business was ruined.
Women are being consumed by their own consumption. They've become wage-slaves in their own corporate fantasia. Women are being manipulated by their own manipulations.
A family with two full-time working parents does not function as a family. Something is missing. The family is missing. The modern American family is a pathological joke that will not endure.
Our educational system – the corporate job-training it has devolved into – and most of the jobs in modern society – are hopelessly feminine. The soul-scarring and deep resentment this causes in men is almost beyond calculation.
Recently a guy in Iowa was told that the U.S. economy created 280,000 jobs in the last quarter. He said, "I know. My wife and I have four of them."
Cities are feminine. Nature is masculine. Corporations are female. Government is female. God is male.
It should be one of the stipulations of receiving Social Security that each old man has to spend three hours a week with some kid from a broken home.
In Hawaii, the kids call every adult male "uncle" and every adult female "auntie". The beauty of this is that every adult feels involved and responsible for the health and worldview and good sense of every child.
Do I hate women? Not at all. I don't hate tigers, and I don't hate women. But I'm putting myself in extreme danger if I don't understand a tiger's nature or a woman's nature. Yes, extreme danger. This is no game any more. Feminism isn't cute. Femaleness is rotting people's souls.
Feminists are not the problem, they're just trying to get due credit for 8000 years of women manipulating human civilization.
All the things women blame on men are the things women put in men.
Until we recognize that war is caused by female materialistic greed, we don't have a chance of ending it.
If American culture were a real culture, it would provide some sort of initiation rituals to bring young men into the company of revered elders.
The United States is a "new" country. In fact, it hasn't really become a country yet, it's just an idea. We have no culture other than the culture of buying things and talking about freedom.
The female's initiation is her wedding. The groom should burn the bride's wedding gown at the ceremony to demonstrate to her that her girlhood is over. This is real. This is marriage. This is the death of the little girl ego.
James Joyce said that all art which creates desire is pornographic. Our media, our advertising, are pure pornography.
The New Male Manifesto is easy to remember. It goes like this: LET THEM FIX THEIR OWN TOILETS!
Women obey rules and regulations. Men obey principles.
Always remember to be grateful. And always remember:
ETERNITY IS NOW
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